Feed An Emotionally Ill Person Hope

An emotionally ill person may suffer depression, anxiety or be mired in a grief from which they are unable to get out. He is not feeling well, hopelessness is part of his day to day. So our duty is to give you the best possible hope.

When we are bad, it seems that we will never get out of that state. We complain, we feel victims of circumstances and we just hope or “pray” that everything passes and it goes back to how it was before. However, in emotional matters not everything is so easy.

The impossibility of seeing beyond

When a person is emotionally affected he finds that his emotions do everything possible to make him break down. This happens because the emotions that we consider negative take the first positions and do not leave room for the positive ones.

Therefore, no matter how much we tell an emotionally ill person that things will get better or that it is just a bump, it will not help. She will be unable to see past her own pain. Because, in addition, emotional pain is much worse than physical pain.

Emotional pain takes away your desire, your motivation and, sometimes, even your own self-esteem. You may stop grooming yourself, shut yourself off, and get away from others. Negative emotions end up covering you in such a way that you don’t see any light.

However, negative emotions are not the only ones that can bring you down: also the people around you, even if they have no intention of doing so. But society has educated us to reject the good and embrace the bad. Let’s dive deeper into this …

An emotionally ill person does not need compassion

Society has taught us to reject those who say “everything is going great for me”,  considering them daring and believing. However, we gladly accept being told “I’m not doing very well”, “everything is going as usual” or “it could be better”.

• The reason we better accept being told that things are not going great for them is because that way we won’t feel bad.
• We can, then, feel compassion and pity for the other person, in order to say to ourselves “I’m not doing so badly . ” We are comparing ourselves …

However, the least an emotionally ill person needs is compassion or pity. What you need is hope. However, he only hears phrases such as “you’ll see that everything will be better” or “it seems that it is the disease that everyone suffers now.

Where is that friendly hand that grips tightly and does not let go? At what point did people forget to listen to others to listen only to themselves? Why not laugh, joke, and try to cheer up that person? Why feel sorry? All of this will only aggravate your pain …

How to help an emotionally ill person

The best way to help an emotionally ill person is to listen to them. We do not have to tell you any of the aforementioned phrases that will interrupt your speech. Let her vent, just be by her side, accompanying her and listening to her.

Under no circumstances do we have to get angry or lose patience. Sometimes when someone is depressed, we don’t understand their emotional ups and downs and we tend to get into arguments or blame that will make the situation worse.

Although it does not seem that the emotionally ill person wants us to bother him, a “how are you today?” or “do you need something?” they will be very well received, even if the answer is always “no . ” This will let the sick person know that they are by their side, that they are not alone, and that you care about them.

An emotionally ill person has to go through that trance alone. Although we can be by your side, it is not our responsibility to keep part of your pain to solve it. We have to understand this and make her feel supported.

Here are some ways to give you hope. Subtle ways, in which we seem to be doing nothing but are actually doing a lot.